I know this is going to sound a bit mean, but there just aren’t many unfit surfer chicks. We’re not talking bodyweight here. They may not be lean, mean, paddling machines, but they’ll need a modicum of athletic ability in order to surf. While there are plenty of unfit guys that are surfing, men are physically stronger than women. A fat guy surfer just might be a stronger paddler than a fit woman. (Oh man - Hot Wahine, Surfing Yoga Chick and Julia is Stoked are gonna give me sh!t for this article…) The truth is, you gotta be willing to take a pounding from the waves, paddle til your shoulders can’t rotate and be willing to try, try, try again. Having mastered another sport helps with what’s required for surfing. Yoga counts.
Swimming is at the heart of feeling comfortable in the water. Big waves and paddling out are no problem if your girl will not freak out at being over her head in big and small surf alike. (Same goes for you, by the way.) You want a strong enough swimmer that won’t get scared or discouraged by getting thrown, tossed and turned, and even held under water a little bit.
Get the right surfboardHere’s the deal. You might have started surfing on a small little chip of a surfboarf. But if you really want to get your girl up on the waves, get her at least 7′6″ of major foam, and ideally a mini-mal or woman’s log. She’ll be able to handle the damn thing, won’t feel that it is handling her, and she’ll more easily pick up waves. How do you know if you’ve got the right board? She can carry it under her arm with ease.
Hard to do, I know. If you’re trying to impress a girl, yelling at her, being panicky about a big set that’s coming in or pushing her around won’t be cool. Chillax, dude!
Assuming you’re not on a blue (or pink) softop, you and I both know there is nothing quite like the carnal pleasure that is applying a base coat of Mrs. Palmers followed by Warm Water Mrs. Palmers (on the deck, you kook!) of a board. Once she tries it, she’ll never go back. Comes in coconut, grape etc. etc. Mrs. Palmers goes on the easiest, by the way.

If your dad taught you to surf, he did so by gently pushing you into mushy little waves. Best of all, her little bootie will be in plain view. Hehehe.
A day that is flat for you, but with a tiny little pulse coming through is the best day you can offer to your new wahine. Think warm, flat, summer day. You know all your non-surfing friends (if you have those) that ask whether there is “big surf around here?” Big doesn’t mean better, right? Its no different for you than for your girl.
Rincon, Puerto Rico reef break? Umm, not so much. Beach break with plenty of sand and no cobbles or pebbles? Good idea. Where you go will make for a better day. Stay off the main peaks.

Nothing will make her want to come back for more than you giving your girl some post-wipeout encouragement. It’ll be your goal to get her up on her board within an hour or so. Whether she gets there or no, make sure she ends the session with a smile on her pretty face.
As we all know, its time in the water that really matters. Surfing together makes for a bitchin’ date, and a great travel partner. Groom your wahine, and you’ll have it made!
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hey, Surfing HQ, I totally agree with your article! You outlined all the perfect points of teaching a girl how to surf. Hopefully all the men out there will take your advice! peace!!
take it from me, teaching your girlfriend to surf is a terrible idea!!! It will be fun for about a week because the giving you shit factor will drop but after that she will expect to go surfing with you all the time, and when she is done surfing it means your done surfing. And if she can’t go surfing, its common to hear “your really going to go without me ? are you serious? ” And if you have a girlfriend that likes a challenge like mine, she goes out with me when its way to big for her then gets mad that I am not helping her. even though I’ll be trying to duck dive her log in the impact zone. Trying to teach her rules of the water forget it. Typical conversation, sweetie you can’t drop in people.. her response…well he’s a jerk he gets all the waves, well sweetie you are a 25 yards off the peak.well whatever he can deal with it. What used to be my peacefull time in silence to just enjoy the ocean became 2 hours of hearing “Did you see me ? Did you see me ?” “Ok im cold I am going in hurry up im hungry and wanna go home” ughh…….. as I read this back I realize how much this girl sucks.
ROFL!!!! ^^^
You might be right…
Now that I think about it, my wife gets pissed when I take off for 6 hrs…
Yeah, KC nailed it (although she sounds a bit high maintenance). I think there’s something fundamentally necessary about having at least one or two SEPARATE hobbies from your significant other. Don’t get me wrong, chicks that surf totally rock, but surfing has become more about “me time” than it ever has. And it’s great that my chick understands that (although it took some time). My recommendation to having your obsession tolerated by your significant other is a bit of preplanning, and managing her expectations.
I love spending a summer day on the beach and the fact that she can enjoy bobbing around in the water with me, but there’s something satisfyingly selfish and solitary about a mid-winter 5 a.m. session. Plus, I’m a total asshole to my buddies when I’m awake and they don’t feel like surfing, “fine, you surf pillow reef, I’ll tell you how good it was in 4 hours when your hangover goes away.” I don’t think that would be a productive relationship move. Bottom line? Keep at least part of your surfing to yourself. That or date a chick that’s more hardcore than you are. And KC, dump that whiner…
-PK